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Sexual Harrassment in the work place.

Post by Savage » Thu Jan 01, 2009 2:59 pm

There is a young punk at my work that thinks he is the gift to all women, and decided to play his charms on me by humping my shoulder at work. I reported his ass to human resources...the fucker still has a job.
I did a little research & come to find out he has done this to several other women who have also reported it.
He gets to keep his job because his numbers are good.
Evidently Missouri law states an employer gets to chose the degree of reprimand in this kind of situation...in his case they do nothing.
In my opinion, I think this is negligence. Even though the company can chose his "punishment", they are still allowing his illegal behavior.

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Post by gunther » Thu Jan 01, 2009 3:27 pm

Options...
1.Don't do anything and let it blow over.
2.Sue the shit out of your employer.
3.Quit
4.Punch the little bastard in the nuts with a pair of brass knuckles, and maybe get fired.
5.Get your boyfriend/girlfriend to beat the fuck out of him.
6.All of the above.

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Post by soundguy » Thu Jan 01, 2009 4:54 pm

Should have cockpunched him with a stapler in "self defence"
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Post by YTSEJAM » Thu Jan 01, 2009 6:17 pm

Savage wrote:There is a young punk at my work that thinks he is the gift to all women, and decided to play his charms on me by humping my shoulder at work. I reported his ass to human resources...the fucker still has a job.
I did a little research & come to find out he has done this to several other women who have also reported it.
He gets to keep his job because his numbers are good.
Evidently Missouri law states an employer gets to chose the degree of reprimand in this kind of situation...in his case they do nothing.
In my opinion, I think this is negligence. Even though the company can chose his "punishment", they are still allowing his illegal behavior.

Comments/opinions anyone?
get all the women who he harrassed and get the fucker charged criminally, or turn him into a floater somewhere.
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Post by Adremelech » Thu Jan 01, 2009 7:39 pm

By law, it's not an offense unless he does it after you have told him not to do so. For example.... Say I tell Suzy-Q at the office that she has nice tits. That by itself will not get me busted (Unless your workplace policy says otherwise...but we're just talking the law here). If she tells me that what I have said offended her, and then I go and do something like that again... THEN that is sexual harassment in the eyes of the law.

So... Document the incident, make sure that it's documented that you told him that what he did was offensive. Then wait for him to do it again. At that point the law gets involved and you can sue the living fuck out of your employer for neglecting to deal with the guy.

EDIT: After I re-read your post, I see you mentioned it being in Missouri. Therefore, my rant above may not apply since I'm only familiar with WA state laws.
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Post by Jenzy » Fri Jan 02, 2009 1:09 am

Like Joe said you need to let him know that the advances are unwanted. And if he continues then he can get in trouble. That's the typical guidlines in WA and CA. Just do some research on the web for the specifics to your state.

Fuck it hon, just grab him by the nuts pull him close to you and whisper in his ear that if he does that again to you his precious boys in your hand will no longer be attached to his body. . . or something like that, I know you can be very creative my dear. :D
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Post by Blake NWR » Fri Jan 02, 2009 2:39 am

Shoot him.
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Post by LIVE FO RETSINIM » Fri Jan 02, 2009 3:49 am

Savage wrote:There is a young punk at my work that thinks he is the gift to all women, and decided to play his charms on me by humping my shoulder at work. I reported his ass to human resources...the fucker still has a job.
I did a little research & come to find out he has done this to several other women who have also reported it.
He gets to keep his job because his numbers are good.
Evidently Missouri law states an employer gets to chose the degree of reprimand in this kind of situation...in his case they do nothing.
In my opinion, I think this is negligence. Even though the company can chose his "punishment", they are still allowing his illegal behavior.

Comments/opinions anyone?
I have one question about this situation, could I get this guy's emal address? Cause I want to party with this dude!!!! He sounds pretty cool and I like his worth ethic. Humping chick's shoulders is hilarious and awesome, and I respect his boldness for standing up against the system. Fight the power my brother, and bounce yor balls off of more shoulders in the name of freedom!
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Post by Savage » Fri Jan 02, 2009 5:21 am

LIVE FO RETSINIM wrote:I have one question about this situation, could I get this guy's emal address? Cause I want to party with this dude!!!! He sounds pretty cool and I like his worth ethic. Humping chick's shoulders is hilarious and awesome, and I respect his boldness for standing up against the system. Fight the power my brother, and bounce yor balls off of more shoulders in the name of freedom!
Gee, how did I know you'd post something like that? Thank you for not letting my expectations down!
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Post by Savage » Fri Jan 02, 2009 5:28 am

I did some homework and unfortunatly I don't have a strong case by myself. getting statements from other females that have also filed reports/complaints, does give a good case for negligence.
...otherwise the body bag and lyme my husband has ready for the little bitch boy will work nicely.
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Post by Luna C » Fri Jan 02, 2009 6:23 am

Is your company a small business or a large corporation? I'd keep trying to take it as high up as you can if it is larger.
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Post by Blonde leading the blonde » Fri Jan 02, 2009 9:01 am

Savage - are you clumsy? Can you at least pretend to be? I like Pat's suggestion, best. If every time he gets too close to you, you *accidentally* step on his toe, spill coffee down his shirt (or in his lap if it's hot enough), staple his dick to his forehead, or whatever, he'll eventually keep his distance. If everytime he makes an inappropriate verbal comment you retort with something dull and business-like, such as "that's completely inappropriate in the workplace, even for needle-dick momma's boys who can't find an opportunity to talk to a woman outside of work, and the company is NOT paying you to flirt with me. I don't share your feelings and I'm not interested.", well, eventually, you'll just be painful and no fun.
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Post by DeathFrogg » Fri Jan 02, 2009 9:32 am

Document the offenses in writing. Details, no embellishments, no editorializing, just the facts and include the basis for why you are offended by his actions. Make two copies plus the original.

Then take all those to to your supervisor and HIS/HER supervisor, and have them sign all three copies. One goes in your employee file, one goes in your supervisors file, and you keep the original at home.


Make sure then that your supervisor knows exactly what is pissing you off, and make sure his/her supervisor knows about the problem. Then make damn sure they have a conversation with the asshole/punk/pervo/dickcheese thats committing the offenses to let him know that you are offended, irritated and getting more pissed off about the situation.

You then have documentation for a formal complaint with the State if the situation does not change. The laws are on your side in this. So if you take the action of grabbing his nuts and giving them a slight squeeze and twist with the simultaneous sharp downward yank, you might have a reasonable defense in a court of law.


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Post by BigHurknFrontman » Fri Jan 02, 2009 3:34 pm

Blonde leading the blonde wrote: ...well, eventually, you'll just be painful and no fun.
Which is not AT ALL like her!

I'm sure she doesn't want to be like EVERY OTHER female in the workplace. Cunts like that have become the antithesis to what women have fought so hard for.

Personally, what I think she should do if she wants his on-the-clock antics to stop, is to agree to meet him after work. Let him make his moves and reciprocate to the point where she has his miniscule little weiner in her mouth, then chomp down on it like she's trying to get a corn dog off the stick at the county fair.

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Post by IRONDICK » Fri Jan 02, 2009 5:19 pm

As stated above document, document, document. If you don't write it down it didn't happen. So how does your husband feel about this? Personally if it happened to my wife the dude would not be very happy when he got off work and saw me waiting by his car.
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Post by dying to see » Fri Jan 02, 2009 7:19 pm

LIVE FO RETSINIM wrote:I have one question about this situation, could I get this guy's emal address? Cause I want to party with this dude!!!! He sounds pretty cool and I like his worth ethic. Humping chick's shoulders is hilarious and awesome, and I respect his boldness for standing up against the system. Fight the power my brother, and bounce yor balls off of more shoulders in the name of freedom!
ha! I quite enjoyed that sir.
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Post by Savage » Fri Jan 02, 2009 8:17 pm

As I said before, in the state of Missouri it is up to the company (and in this case a very large international company), to administer what they deem as fair punishment. In his case it was a "don't do it AGAIN"....I'm not his only target.
'He hasn't said shit to me, but anyone that associates with me on a regular basis he has been giving death looks to...which in itself is hilarious.
Jonathan is a body building mexican with a death wish has now gotten in his face, Tobi is a very large black man that has now getten in his face....then there is Michael, a recent military returning from duty overseas who has adopted me as lil sis...waiting for the punk to get done doing a "DJ" gig at the bar down the street from Michael's condo. I believe he is scheduled to work this weekend...
Really, when you fuck with a woman that makes interesting friends...don't fuck with her. Simple, huh?
In addition to that, everyone at the office is a gossip & has decided the whole incident was funny...as in this lil punk humping my shoulder is really a "manly" thing to do, the teasing has been relentless & it hasn't been aimed at me. He's probably feeling about an inch tall, but no one can tell because he hasn't been to work in a few days.
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Post by Jenzy » Fri Jan 02, 2009 9:10 pm

Savage wrote: but no one can tell because he hasn't been to work in a few days.
Sounds like some of your male friends have already taken care of the situation. . .it's nice to have crazy male friends. :D
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Post by Jonathan » Fri Jan 02, 2009 9:30 pm

I'm surprised you didn't beat the shit out of him. Eventually someone will. But it won't matter, people of that nature don't really change.
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Post by gunther » Sat Jan 03, 2009 12:27 pm

Savage wrote:I did some homework and unfortunatly I don't have a strong case by myself. getting statements from other females that have also filed reports/complaints, does give a good case for negligence.
...otherwise the body bag and lyme my husband has ready for the little bitch boy will work nicely.
what you do is find out if he has a girl friend, then convey your concerns to her, let her do the dirty work.Then you get a hold of his parents.You do what ever it takes to stay civil but attack his life.I guarantee he'll run at the sight of you!

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Post by Blake NWR » Sat Jan 03, 2009 4:23 pm

I still say shoot him.
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Post by Irrylath » Sat Jan 03, 2009 4:52 pm

Blake NWR wrote:I still say shoot him.
laugh out loud :D


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Post by Ciaran » Sat Jan 03, 2009 8:26 pm

Maybe you and some of the others so offended can confront him. Crunching his sack or slapping him may be funny and all, but you might end up returning the "favor" by telling him that physical touch is OK. You should all approach him at lunch and have a conversation. No overt threats. No smiles. Let him know the gravity of the situation.
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Post by imperator_Drakul » Sun Jan 04, 2009 10:59 pm

Savage wrote:As I said before, in the state of Missouri it is up to the company (and in this case a very large international company), to administer what they deem as fair punishment. In his case it was a "don't do it AGAIN"....I'm not his only target.
'He hasn't said shit to me, but anyone that associates with me on a regular basis he has been giving death looks to...which in itself is hilarious.
Jonathan is a body building mexican with a death wish has now gotten in his face, Tobi is a very large black man that has now getten in his face....then there is Michael, a recent military returning from duty overseas who has adopted me as lil sis...waiting for the punk to get done doing a "DJ" gig at the bar down the street from Michael's condo. I believe he is scheduled to work this weekend...
Really, when you fuck with a woman that makes interesting friends...don't fuck with her. Simple, huh?
In addition to that, everyone at the office is a gossip & has decided the whole incident was funny...as in this lil punk humping my shoulder is really a "manly" thing to do, the teasing has been relentless & it hasn't been aimed at me. He's probably feeling about an inch tall, but no one can tell because he hasn't been to work in a few days.

fuck your black and mexican and white army friends, this is your battle, fight it yourself--because even after he gets his ass kicked by someone else (one of your friends), that doesn't mean he'll think you're untouchable and not to be fucked with. Trust me on that one.
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Post by Evil Red » Mon Jan 05, 2009 1:46 pm

Savage wrote: In addition to that, everyone at the office is a gossip & has decided the whole incident was funny...as in this lil punk humping my shoulder is really a "manly" thing to do, the teasing has been relentless & it hasn't been aimed at me. He's probably feeling about an inch tall, but no one can tell because he hasn't been to work in a few days.
Seems to me the ticket is right there.
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